If Flannagan's child, a boy should be, wait...I have three boys. The are 17, 15 and 10. This is a word of advice to them, all males and actually anyone looking for wisdom.
I was at the gas station this morning. I saw a pretty lady, and thought yo myself..."Self..." A thought occured to me that has popped up often lately. I had a beautiful woman, married her and were together 20 years. She had some issues that prevented her from being able to fully share herself. It was completely frustrating and tragic. I felt like the beggar at the buffett with no way to eat, slowly starving to death in plain view of the food.
I am way past looking for a 'hottie' or maybe its not that as much as understanding the importance and priority of personality, self-concept, affection, attraction and more. We have to be careful placing too much emphasis to the physical, because there is just so much more to the equation. I look at every lady with a different pair of eyes now. Firstly because I am again single, and secondly because the last thing I want and need is some Barbi who is psycho....been there had that, trying to get past the scars.
Some need to realize that being a 'hottie' is not a physical-only label. To me, it is more attitude. I'm sure some of you ladies are 100% more hottie because of attitude than those who view it as what they look like. Some of you should avoid making the mistake of down-playing your looks. This hurts you and any love interest that may be in your life. Do any of us ever, actually, reach the place where we think we are perfect. Even if you take the Knife for 'upgrades', you will never achieve the look you have in your mind's eye of what beauty is. Lord knows I tried and tried to convince my ex of that...she never bought in......again, tragic.
So, to my boys or any boys....(Warning: Cliche aproaching....)beauty is only skin deep. So true, so true, so true. Wether it is you or someone else, cut yourself some slack! This is much different than being a slacker.
Again I maintain this for some future lady....I will love you anytime, place, state of mind, weight, scars, baggage, kids, family, financial status and condition....unconditionally!
Cocktails and Dreams....
Dave
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