Monsters-in-Laws

If you are married, you have your own stories, I'm sure. If you are one that has wonderful in-laws, then you have it good. I always thought that I had a split. My MIL and I have just about always butted heads, while my FIL and I got on pretty well. I certainly had it better than some. There is no way to count the number of times they have helped us financially. I am grateful for each of those times.
During the past year, as it became increasingly obvious that the marriage was over, my FIL became callous and combative.
Somewhere during my wife's two stays in a mental hospital in Jan. and Feb. '09, my FIL and I were texting to eachother. He was telling me that in December'08, when my wife had hooked up with another man 'for dinner', that she was not herself and I should not hold it against her. I pointed out that I took care of everything: her, her job, the kids, the house and my job, all the while discovering about this infidelity. I didn't bring it up until she was out of the hospital. My FIL told me the following,"I am sure your feelings are hurt and she had certainly used bad judgement, but I NEEDED TO GET OVER IT!!" He told me to get over it.
Ladies, how often do you simply get over a husbund's infidelity?? What if the positions were reversed?? There is no way in hell my wife would simply, get over it.
So, knowing there was just cause to keep tabs on her, I started checking up on her phone and labeled her numbers so it showed me on my cell bill what numbers were being used. I found out that she had gone to a lawyer, so I started to prepare for my life on my own. The first thing was to open a checking account. I took half of what was in our checkig account, $800, and opened an account at a different bank.
Well, after a couple days the phone rings and it was the wife flipping out about the missing money. As I drove home FIL called. He then texts me "CALL ME".
When I do he is asking me if I have a drug problem, do I have a gambling problem? We can get you help if you do...(playing the 'loving' FIL...) He then starts pounding me about me being broke and how I will end up exactly like my father when he died 3 years ago, broke. Finally, I give in to returning the money, although I still left a little there to keep the account open.
Next, he accuses me of being a stalker!!!!!! He was telling me about all the felonies I was committing by having my wife's phone tapped. Stalking...my own wife...who I have proof of being adulterous. At that point I told him we were done. In more ways than one because that was the last time we had any communication. (never had anything tapped by the way...) There's my psycho in-law story. I hope you don't have any.

I love you!

Dave