Here is where I will keep my excercise information. I hit 217 pounds early in 2009, that is the heaviest I have EVER been. For the past couple years I have really not excercised at all. I started working out June 1st. I would rollerblade and bike. I hate jogging, but worked it in a little. So here I will detail my excercise as much for me as for you.
6-27-09 Sat. am track, walk 1 lap, jog 1 lap, w1, j2, w1, j1, w1.
pm bike 45 min
6-28-09 Sun. pm bike 60 min
6-29-09 Mon am track, walk 1, w1 w/up/down bleachers 4-did that for 4 laps, w1
weight 207.8
6-30-09 Tue am track, w1, j1, w1, j2, w1, j1, w2.
7-1-09 Wed walked 2 miles today, felt kinda lazy...
weight 207.0
7-2-09 Thu am track w2, 4 laps sprint straights/walk curves, w2.
Got lazy for a few days, 7-3, 7-4, 7-5.
7-6-09 Mon am track w2, 2 ss/wc, w1, ss/wc 1, w1.
7-7-09 Tue am track w2, j3, w2
pm bike 45 min
weight 205.2
7-8-09 Wed am track w2, 4 ss/wc, w2
pm track w2, j1, w1, j1, w2
7-9-09 Thu am track w2, j1, w1, j1, w1, j1, w2
pm bike 60 minutes
7-10 through 7-14-nothing.
Actually had some people notice I had lost weight! I had to dress up yesterday
for the first time in a while. I had to move to a new hole in my belt, that felt good.
7-15-09 Wed pm track w2, 2 ss/wc, w2, 1 ss/wc, w1
7-16-09 Thu am track w2, j2, w2, j1, w2
pm track w4 w/ a friend.
weight 206.6
7-17-09 Fri am track w2, 4 ss/wc, w2
7-18-09 Sat am track w4
Bike in the shop...
7-19-09 Sun am track w2, j2, w2
Tuesday, June 30, 2009
Monday, June 29, 2009
Monsters-in-Laws
If you are married, you have your own stories, I'm sure. If you are one that has wonderful in-laws, then you have it good. I always thought that I had a split. My MIL and I have just about always butted heads, while my FIL and I got on pretty well. I certainly had it better than some. There is no way to count the number of times they have helped us financially. I am grateful for each of those times.
During the past year, as it became increasingly obvious that the marriage was over, my FIL became callous and combative.
Somewhere during my wife's two stays in a mental hospital in Jan. and Feb. '09, my FIL and I were texting to eachother. He was telling me that in December'08, when my wife had hooked up with another man 'for dinner', that she was not herself and I should not hold it against her. I pointed out that I took care of everything: her, her job, the kids, the house and my job, all the while discovering about this infidelity. I didn't bring it up until she was out of the hospital. My FIL told me the following,"I am sure your feelings are hurt and she had certainly used bad judgement, but I NEEDED TO GET OVER IT!!" He told me to get over it.
Ladies, how often do you simply get over a husbund's infidelity?? What if the positions were reversed?? There is no way in hell my wife would simply, get over it.
So, knowing there was just cause to keep tabs on her, I started checking up on her phone and labeled her numbers so it showed me on my cell bill what numbers were being used. I found out that she had gone to a lawyer, so I started to prepare for my life on my own. The first thing was to open a checking account. I took half of what was in our checkig account, $800, and opened an account at a different bank.
Well, after a couple days the phone rings and it was the wife flipping out about the missing money. As I drove home FIL called. He then texts me "CALL ME".
When I do he is asking me if I have a drug problem, do I have a gambling problem? We can get you help if you do...(playing the 'loving' FIL...) He then starts pounding me about me being broke and how I will end up exactly like my father when he died 3 years ago, broke. Finally, I give in to returning the money, although I still left a little there to keep the account open.
Next, he accuses me of being a stalker!!!!!! He was telling me about all the felonies I was committing by having my wife's phone tapped. Stalking...my own wife...who I have proof of being adulterous. At that point I told him we were done. In more ways than one because that was the last time we had any communication. (never had anything tapped by the way...) There's my psycho in-law story. I hope you don't have any.
I love you!
Dave
During the past year, as it became increasingly obvious that the marriage was over, my FIL became callous and combative.
Somewhere during my wife's two stays in a mental hospital in Jan. and Feb. '09, my FIL and I were texting to eachother. He was telling me that in December'08, when my wife had hooked up with another man 'for dinner', that she was not herself and I should not hold it against her. I pointed out that I took care of everything: her, her job, the kids, the house and my job, all the while discovering about this infidelity. I didn't bring it up until she was out of the hospital. My FIL told me the following,"I am sure your feelings are hurt and she had certainly used bad judgement, but I NEEDED TO GET OVER IT!!" He told me to get over it.
Ladies, how often do you simply get over a husbund's infidelity?? What if the positions were reversed?? There is no way in hell my wife would simply, get over it.
So, knowing there was just cause to keep tabs on her, I started checking up on her phone and labeled her numbers so it showed me on my cell bill what numbers were being used. I found out that she had gone to a lawyer, so I started to prepare for my life on my own. The first thing was to open a checking account. I took half of what was in our checkig account, $800, and opened an account at a different bank.
Well, after a couple days the phone rings and it was the wife flipping out about the missing money. As I drove home FIL called. He then texts me "CALL ME".
When I do he is asking me if I have a drug problem, do I have a gambling problem? We can get you help if you do...(playing the 'loving' FIL...) He then starts pounding me about me being broke and how I will end up exactly like my father when he died 3 years ago, broke. Finally, I give in to returning the money, although I still left a little there to keep the account open.
Next, he accuses me of being a stalker!!!!!! He was telling me about all the felonies I was committing by having my wife's phone tapped. Stalking...my own wife...who I have proof of being adulterous. At that point I told him we were done. In more ways than one because that was the last time we had any communication. (never had anything tapped by the way...) There's my psycho in-law story. I hope you don't have any.
I love you!
Dave
Kids and divorce
My two smaller children were after me yesterday to come see them. I had stopped by on Saturday only to find my daughter, 12, out of town with a friend, and my youngest son, 10, at a friend's house. There was no point in staying around the house waiting for my wife to get home, so I headed back to my apartment. I live about 35 miles from them now.
My older two boys, 16 and 15, were not around either as the oldest works quite a bit as a head lifeguard. The other was out doing something with a friend's family. These two have developed into awesome guys, and I am lucky enough to have a special interest with each of them. The oldest and I share a passion for the NFL and the US Men's Soccer team. The other one and I are both wrestling fans. I took him to an episode of Monday Night Raw. It was awesome!! I will try to take my oldest to see the Houston Texans play the Ind. Colts. I love Payton Manning, so he naturally started rooting for Eli Manning. I also introduced him to Fantasy Football.
These 2 would live with me if they could choose. I don't know if that will come up when we go to court on July 14th or not. (See my previous entry about 'Divorce') I would happily take my 4 kids and be a single dad, but I can't afford to fight that battle. My wife is a good enough mom, I don't worry too much about her effects on the kids. I am in contact with the older 3 through texts almost everyday. There is the possibility that my wife will move them to San Antonio because her parents live there. That would mean moving the kids as they enter 12th, 11th, 8th and 6th grades. I think that would be the absolute worst time to move the older two. I may be able to interceed there.
I will take the kids to the pool today, prolly get some Sonic. I am bringing the second Natural Tresure movie to watch with them. (I love Nick Cage...one of my favorite actors!) I hope your day is wonderful!
I love you!
Dave
My older two boys, 16 and 15, were not around either as the oldest works quite a bit as a head lifeguard. The other was out doing something with a friend's family. These two have developed into awesome guys, and I am lucky enough to have a special interest with each of them. The oldest and I share a passion for the NFL and the US Men's Soccer team. The other one and I are both wrestling fans. I took him to an episode of Monday Night Raw. It was awesome!! I will try to take my oldest to see the Houston Texans play the Ind. Colts. I love Payton Manning, so he naturally started rooting for Eli Manning. I also introduced him to Fantasy Football.
These 2 would live with me if they could choose. I don't know if that will come up when we go to court on July 14th or not. (See my previous entry about 'Divorce') I would happily take my 4 kids and be a single dad, but I can't afford to fight that battle. My wife is a good enough mom, I don't worry too much about her effects on the kids. I am in contact with the older 3 through texts almost everyday. There is the possibility that my wife will move them to San Antonio because her parents live there. That would mean moving the kids as they enter 12th, 11th, 8th and 6th grades. I think that would be the absolute worst time to move the older two. I may be able to interceed there.
I will take the kids to the pool today, prolly get some Sonic. I am bringing the second Natural Tresure movie to watch with them. (I love Nick Cage...one of my favorite actors!) I hope your day is wonderful!
I love you!
Dave
Sunday, June 28, 2009
Being Single Again
WOW!!
The process of being by yourself again after 20 years.... WTF!!!
Is there a manual somewhere? I remember my monster-in-law when my first child was born. She was there bossing about this and that. I remember thinking to myself, "Self...where is the owner's manuel for this kid??? Now, he is 16 and again I am wondering about the manual, to life, soon to be single again at 41.
So, uh, hmmm.....Is there a good place to start? Ok, better get in a little better shape. I haven't been on a scale for a while. Last time I was I was 210, down from 217 earlier this year. I have started doing some track work 2-3 times a week. I walk a lap and jog a lap. I have also started cycling 3-4 evenings. I ride 45-60 minutes doing sprints and coasting.
I have made several changes to my diet. The biggest was to seriously lower my intake of junk. I have also been eating stuff like oatmeal, cereal, almonds, apples bananas.
Where the heck do you meet women these days?? Bars, Internet, work, church??
I don't really go to church anymore and work is not too much of an option. Give me your feedback and success stories. Thanks for your help always.
I love you!
Dave
The process of being by yourself again after 20 years.... WTF!!!
Is there a manual somewhere? I remember my monster-in-law when my first child was born. She was there bossing about this and that. I remember thinking to myself, "Self...where is the owner's manuel for this kid??? Now, he is 16 and again I am wondering about the manual, to life, soon to be single again at 41.
So, uh, hmmm.....Is there a good place to start? Ok, better get in a little better shape. I haven't been on a scale for a while. Last time I was I was 210, down from 217 earlier this year. I have started doing some track work 2-3 times a week. I walk a lap and jog a lap. I have also started cycling 3-4 evenings. I ride 45-60 minutes doing sprints and coasting.
I have made several changes to my diet. The biggest was to seriously lower my intake of junk. I have also been eating stuff like oatmeal, cereal, almonds, apples bananas.
Where the heck do you meet women these days?? Bars, Internet, work, church??
I don't really go to church anymore and work is not too much of an option. Give me your feedback and success stories. Thanks for your help always.
I love you!
Dave
Divorce
What is a nice guy to do??? I have spent 18 years, 20 if you include dating and engagement, with this lady. We have 4 wonderful kids. Over the past several years, we have drifted apart. While my wife was in a mental hospital due to a job related breakdown, I discovered communications she had been having with other men. She would tell them how she wished she was divorced. I found out about one actual 'meeting' she had to which she wrote him the next day, "Hey babe, that was a great night."
We don't have money saved, but we do have credit card debt! When I moved out, I left her this letter:
Neither of us have been happy for a very long time, and we both deserve the chance to regain that. My lawyer tells me that it is silly for us to contest this divorce. I agree. I won't fight you for the kids. They are always welcome with me. I have never told the boys what to do and respect whatever decisions they come to in life. I will pay the $1,100.00 child support every month, and keep the children on my insurance. I am in the process of removing myself from the cell bill and the auto ins. bill.
I have taken what I want from the house, which is very little. If you sell the house, I would like part of the money and expect we will equally divide the debt. If you want your lawyer to draw up papers reflecting such, I will have my lawyer review them. I don't have money like your dad, but I'd like to think he isn't in a big hurry to spend a bunch of it in court. If I need to I can beg, borrow or steal money to contest, but think we can work things out between the two of us.
I hope you get a job for next year and would be happy to tell anyone what an incredible teacher you are. I hope you find love again with Chuck or whoever. I really don't want to be enemies.
When I was served with papers, everything was agreeable. The only exception to that was her request for spousal maintenance, or alimony. She has had steady employment for the past 6 years, but had to take a leave of absence due to a medical condition. She was released to return to work in June '09.
I do not have money to pay a retainer. I have met with a couple different attorneys, but I continue to be in the same situation. I am facing the prospect of going to court over one issue Pro Se. At this point I am representing myself. Neither of us have credit cards as a side effect of our debt, so I cannot charge up a lawyer.
I now and will always accept my half of the blame for our problems and my current situation. If anyone out there in Internet land has any ideas for me, I'd love to hear them. I'll blog again soon.
I love you!
Dave
We don't have money saved, but we do have credit card debt! When I moved out, I left her this letter:
Neither of us have been happy for a very long time, and we both deserve the chance to regain that. My lawyer tells me that it is silly for us to contest this divorce. I agree. I won't fight you for the kids. They are always welcome with me. I have never told the boys what to do and respect whatever decisions they come to in life. I will pay the $1,100.00 child support every month, and keep the children on my insurance. I am in the process of removing myself from the cell bill and the auto ins. bill.
I have taken what I want from the house, which is very little. If you sell the house, I would like part of the money and expect we will equally divide the debt. If you want your lawyer to draw up papers reflecting such, I will have my lawyer review them. I don't have money like your dad, but I'd like to think he isn't in a big hurry to spend a bunch of it in court. If I need to I can beg, borrow or steal money to contest, but think we can work things out between the two of us.
I hope you get a job for next year and would be happy to tell anyone what an incredible teacher you are. I hope you find love again with Chuck or whoever. I really don't want to be enemies.
When I was served with papers, everything was agreeable. The only exception to that was her request for spousal maintenance, or alimony. She has had steady employment for the past 6 years, but had to take a leave of absence due to a medical condition. She was released to return to work in June '09.
I do not have money to pay a retainer. I have met with a couple different attorneys, but I continue to be in the same situation. I am facing the prospect of going to court over one issue Pro Se. At this point I am representing myself. Neither of us have credit cards as a side effect of our debt, so I cannot charge up a lawyer.
I now and will always accept my half of the blame for our problems and my current situation. If anyone out there in Internet land has any ideas for me, I'd love to hear them. I'll blog again soon.
I love you!
Dave
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